Life With Dolapo

  Source: Google  Not again  Not again!!!! Those were the first two sentences  That left my mouth  As I heard Mr P  Pounding and stumping  On what I suppose is the body of his wife Mrs P With each pound  Came a scream of anguish  And with a stump  Tears, bruising and blood  Plates or were they bottles  were falling to the floor  shattering  The hysterical laughter  “Hahahahahahah” The cynical hissing “Mtchewwwwww” Every sound suddenly amplified  For all to hear  But what couldn’t be heard Was the fear that gripped  Their 4children while they lay on their shared bed To rest from the day’s play. The door banged shut And a car engine comes alive  That must be Mr P leaving. Good riddance  But I knew he would be back in the day like nothing happened  The tranquil that once enveloped  The night in my small community  Was Torn from head to toe  In just a second  In one c...

  Love being an action word precludes there’s an exercise to it. This exercise requires and includes expression and intentionality. In other words, “Love get workings” To express love in any relationship is like nourishment is to a plant- water, sunlight and good soil . While intentionality is active effort done towards an end which is the opposite of convenience - whenever the stars align .  Here’s the thing, I love quality time, to be specific, quality time with myself . It’s one of the greatest ways I show myself love. But I also have friends that I’d give a kidney or an eye to if need be. This goes to show I’ve a certain depth of affection for these ones.  So even if personal time is important to me and I have a friend whose primary love language is quality time, I accord him/her quality time even if it’s not convenient. Why? Because this is an expression of love the person understands. I learn to give gifts to the one who values them more even if gifts do not spea...

  The gap between desires and reality is time and decisions. There's no one of rid of desires- mudane or extraordinary. Even the will to see or to do is a choice. I'll give examples.  If I want to be a renowned writer, I've to take actions that reflect my interest in being a maestro at my craft. Like writing consistently, learning about writing and putting myself out there.  If I also want to keep an healthy weight, my food choices would have to be deliberate. I will make an effort not to jump on the joy ride of a sugar overdrive at the slightest convenience. Rather eating a balanced diet and incorporating a form of exercise into my schedule will be my go to. To become a better friend, I'll have to understand myself and be a better person because  I know my understanding of love first demonstrated to myself overflows into my friendships.  With all that being said, beware, indecision is a choice . What you're not changing, you're choosing . Don't let it be th...

Dear Readers, Hello from your run away writer, I've some thoughts to share. Mind if you indulge me while I am here? Your time and attention flow effortlessly toward what captures your heart. No constraint of time, no vast distance, not even the heaviest fatigue or life’s challenges can hinder someone who truly understands the value of something or someone precious.  Humans are way too resilient to be hindered. A way will be found or one will be created. This is one of my latest conscious culminations. Now, this is me to YOU saying, You are immensely capable of doing the hard things, treading the rough roads, climbing those mountains or starting all over again. Don't cap your power by giving up or give it away by settling for easy. You've got this. You're gonna sweat it out, cry it out loud, laugh it out, eat well, sleep it off, and get back at it again. Yes, it won't always be glamorous but keep chasing after value till you become THE VALUE itself.  Ifedolapo

How have you been Ifedolapo? I’m okay.  But if you really ask me, I’d say:  Lately I have struggled with anxiety. Anxiety capable of crippling my productivity. The past few weeks I have experienced an increasing urge to scurry into a hole where no one will have access to me. One I could come out of when I’m ready to face the world again. But we live in a fast paced world that requires me to keep up. So what I have been doing so far is to just keep showing until I just can't.  In that, I find that I've expanded the existing limit I've placed on myself but at each of those instances I risk breaking, myself, surpassing my elastic limit.  When I say the only reason I've been able to make it this far in one piece is based on the goodness of God some might think it cliche to say in times like this. But that is the plain truth because if God hasn't been showing and shining through me, only Him knows where I will be right now. That's it for now. How have you been? Ifedo...

“What is wrong with you” “Talk to us” The number of times  I was asked that question  In five minutes  Did no good. It jolted to life  Memories suppressed for years  As far back as 60 calendar months. The first distinct memory  Was my first night in Aunty’s house.  I remember waking up scared Because I was alone. And coughing  From the neighbor’s blue tiger generator exhaust seeping into the only window of the room. It’s no surprise I’d wake under such conditions It wasn’t the familiar, clean, crisp, cool air  And quiet night  I had grown accustomed to  From living most of my life in my mother’s town. It was different.  It was loud, hot, smoky and choking. What I thought was to be a night of visit  Became 365 nights  365 nights to 740 nights  740 nights to 1105 nights  And 8 visits from those who left me there in the first place. The second memory that came to me  Was the one that haunted me the most Th...