Life With Dolapo

  Happy New Year Ifedolapo,  This is your year to embrace boldness and shine! Step out of the shadows, including your own, and let your audacity lead the way. This year, you accomplish the most awe-inspiring feats—all with remarkable ease and grace! Your words journey beyond the places you’ve set foot, opening doors to endless opportunities and inviting your feet to follow. It’s remarkably your best year yet!! Shine, superstar, shine  Ifedolapo

  Source: Google You'd think the sun will ease up on it's bright hot smile The clouds will gather to discuss and weep And the earth would revolt against the incidence of the night before But all seemed well again with the world Except for the fact that all wasn't in Mrs P's. Early the next morning Mrs P was up to send her children to school I knew this because of the pot, kettle, stainless clatter  Mr P wasn't back with the ' muscle "- The only car the family owned. So the children alongside Mrs P Will have to use Okada to get to school this morning The moment Mrs P got out of the four walls of her apartment What my eyes made out in pictures Caused my heart to fall. Picture this A shattered mug cup holding water in it  Pieced together by invisible bandages That’s what she reminded me of. She was battered like chin chin dough  She had bruises forming an alternating pattern  With her normal skin like the  Red, white stripe of a  Christmas cane. She hid h...

  Source: Google  Not again  Not again!!!! Those were the first two sentences  That left my mouth  As I heard Mr P  Pounding and stumping  On what I suppose is the body of his wife Mrs P With each pound  Came a scream of anguish  And with a stump  Tears, bruising and blood  Plates or were they bottles  were falling to the floor  shattering  The hysterical laughter  “Hahahahahahah” The cynical hissing “Mtchewwwwww” Every sound suddenly amplified  For all to hear  But what couldn’t be heard Was the fear that gripped  Their 4children while they lay on their shared bed To rest from the day’s play. The door banged shut And a car engine comes alive  That must be Mr P leaving. Good riddance  But I knew he would be back in the day like nothing happened  The tranquil that once enveloped  The night in my small community  Was Torn from head to toe  In just a second  In one c...

  Love being an action word precludes there’s an exercise to it. This exercise requires and includes expression and intentionality. In other words, “Love get workings” To express love in any relationship is like nourishment is to a plant- water, sunlight and good soil . While intentionality is active effort done towards an end which is the opposite of convenience - whenever the stars align .  Here’s the thing, I love quality time, to be specific, quality time with myself . It’s one of the greatest ways I show myself love. But I also have friends that I’d give a kidney or an eye to if need be. This goes to show I’ve a certain depth of affection for these ones.  So even if personal time is important to me and I have a friend whose primary love language is quality time, I accord him/her quality time even if it’s not convenient. Why? Because this is an expression of love the person understands. I learn to give gifts to the one who values them more even if gifts do not spea...

  The gap between desires and reality is time and decisions. There's no one of rid of desires- mudane or extraordinary. Even the will to see or to do is a choice. I'll give examples.  If I want to be a renowned writer, I've to take actions that reflect my interest in being a maestro at my craft. Like writing consistently, learning about writing and putting myself out there.  If I also want to keep an healthy weight, my food choices would have to be deliberate. I will make an effort not to jump on the joy ride of a sugar overdrive at the slightest convenience. Rather eating a balanced diet and incorporating a form of exercise into my schedule will be my go to. To become a better friend, I'll have to understand myself and be a better person because  I know my understanding of love first demonstrated to myself overflows into my friendships.  With all that being said, beware, indecision is a choice . What you're not changing, you're choosing . Don't let it be th...

Dear Readers, Hello from your run away writer, I've some thoughts to share. Mind if you indulge me while I am here? Your time and attention flow effortlessly toward what captures your heart. No constraint of time, no vast distance, not even the heaviest fatigue or life’s challenges can hinder someone who truly understands the value of something or someone precious.  Humans are way too resilient to be hindered. A way will be found or one will be created. This is one of my latest conscious culminations. Now, this is me to YOU saying, You are immensely capable of doing the hard things, treading the rough roads, climbing those mountains or starting all over again. Don't cap your power by giving up or give it away by settling for easy. You've got this. You're gonna sweat it out, cry it out loud, laugh it out, eat well, sleep it off, and get back at it again. Yes, it won't always be glamorous but keep chasing after value till you become THE VALUE itself.  Ifedolapo