Life With Dolapo

  Love being an action word precludes there’s an exercise to it. This exercise requires and includes expression and intentionality. In other words, “Love get workings” To express love in any relationship is like nourishment is to a plant- water, sunlight and good soil . While intentionality is active effort done towards an end which is the opposite of convenience - whenever the stars align .  Here’s the thing, I love quality time, to be specific, quality time with myself . It’s one of the greatest ways I show myself love. But I also have friends that I’d give a kidney or an eye to if need be. This goes to show I’ve a certain depth of affection for these ones.  So even if personal time is important to me and I have a friend whose primary love language is quality time, I accord him/her quality time even if it’s not convenient. Why? Because this is an expression of love the person understands. I learn to give gifts to the one who values them more even if gifts do not spea...

  The gap between desires and reality is time and decisions. There's no one of rid of desires- mudane or extraordinary. Even the will to see or to do is a choice. I'll give examples.  If I want to be a renowned writer, I've to take actions that reflect my interest in being a maestro at my craft. Like writing consistently, learning about writing and putting myself out there.  If I also want to keep an healthy weight, my food choices would have to be deliberate. I will make an effort not to jump on the joy ride of a sugar overdrive at the slightest convenience. Rather eating a balanced diet and incorporating a form of exercise into my schedule will be my go to. To become a better friend, I'll have to understand myself and be a better person because  I know my understanding of love first demonstrated to myself overflows into my friendships.  With all that being said, beware, indecision is a choice . What you're not changing, you're choosing . Don't let it be th...

Dear Readers, Hello from your run away writer, I've some thoughts to share. Mind if you indulge me while I am here? Your time and attention flow effortlessly toward what captures your heart. No constraint of time, no vast distance, not even the heaviest fatigue or life’s challenges can hinder someone who truly understands the value of something or someone precious.  Humans are way too resilient to be hindered. A way will be found or one will be created. This is one of my latest conscious culminations. Now, this is me to YOU saying, You are immensely capable of doing the hard things, treading the rough roads, climbing those mountains or starting all over again. Don't cap your power by giving up or give it away by settling for easy. You've got this. You're gonna sweat it out, cry it out loud, laugh it out, eat well, sleep it off, and get back at it again. Yes, it won't always be glamorous but keep chasing after value till you become THE VALUE itself.  Ifedolapo